The world is rich with different ways in which people experience reality. Sometimes, it can be difficult to understand where you fit in when you feel that “you are not like the majority.” Maybe you recognized yourself in the description of highly sensitive people, maybe you have been diagnosed with ADHD, or you are on the autism spectrum. While these characteristics are different, they often have common threads that can bring us closer in understanding ourselves and others.
What is high sensitivity?
High sensitivity (HS), often referred to as hypersensitivity, is not a diagnosis but a personality trait. These individuals have a heightened reaction to external stimuli, process information deeply, and are often intuitive, creative, and empathetic. Sounds, smells, or light can easily overwhelm them, while deep emotional stories or art can truly touch them. It is believed that 30% of the population is highly sensitive, and as a result, they are often misidentified in descriptions of ADHD and autism, with which they share some characteristics.
ADHD : all at once and at this moment
ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is characterized by difficulties with attention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity (read more). People with ADHD often experience the intensity of life, but they perceive it in fragments — jumping from one idea to another, from one feeling to the next. Their world can feel chaotic, yet at the same time filled with incredible opportunities for creativity and innovation.
Autism: a spectrum of uniqueness
Autism is a neurodivergence that affects the way a person communicates, experiences, and interprets the world. Individuals on the autism spectrum often have deep interests and may enter a hyperfocus on topics that fascinate them. Changes in routine can be challenging, and social situations can sometimes be confusing. However, their dedication, authenticity, and unique perspective are often a source of inspiration.
Similarities that connect us
Although high sensitivity, ADHD, and autism are different concepts, there are overlaps that may lead many of us to ask, “Where do I belong?”. All of these profiles can include:
- Sensitivity to stimuli (such as noise or light).
- Intense emotional responses.
- Deep connection with your interests or passions.
- The feeling of “not belonging” in socially defined frameworks.
- Difficulty with setting boundaries and regulating emotions.

Difference between autism and high sensitivity
The nature of sensitivity: If you are a highly sensitive person, you may notice increased emotional and sensory sensitivity, which allows you to have a greater awareness of your emotional and physical state. In autism, sensory sensitivity can mean either excessive or insufficient sensory stimulation, leading to unique sensory experiences and reactions such as meltdowns or shutdowns (Autistic burnout).
Social interactions: As a highly sensitive person, you may engage in social interactions after adjusting to your surroundings, although social nuances and emotional interactions can deeply affect you. If you are on the autism spectrum, you face daily challenges in social communication, such as difficulties in reading nonverbal cues, understanding the emotions and intentions of others, and establishing reciprocal relationships.
Communication styles: Highly sensitive people often have highly developed verbal skills, and their communication style typically revolves around expressing emotions and connecting with others on an emotional level. In autism, you may struggle with both verbal and nonverbal communication, which can sometimes lead to misunderstandings and challenges in conveying your thoughts and emotions.
Repetitive behaviors and focus: As a highly sensitive person, you may not exhibit the same intensity of repetitive behaviors or narrow focus on specific interests as in autism. Individuals on the autism spectrum often display repetitive behaviors and can have intense interest in certain topics.
Differences and similarities between ADHD and high sensitivity:
Both can be easily overwhelmed by prolonged, intense, or chaotic sounds, sights, and stimuli. If you’re highly sensitive, you might be intuitive and creative, but also prone to anxiety or depression, especially if you had a difficult childhood. Both can be neurotic, anxious, unhappy, and lacking in self-confidence due to negative messages received early in life from parents, teachers, and others. ADHD and high sensitivity are often innate, although there are exceptions.
On the other hand:
- As a highly sensitive person, you might pause and think before acting, while people with ADHD often act impulsively.
- As a highly sensitive person, you can focus well in a calm environment, while individuals with ADHD often struggle with concentration and may seek more stimulation, quickly feeling fatigued or bored.
- HSPs are better at blocking out the influence of distractors compared to individuals with ADHD.
Why is a diagnosis important?
A diagnosis can be empowering because it brings clarity. When we understand ourselves, we can develop strategies that help us live a more fulfilling life. However, a diagnosis is not the end of the story. It is a tool, not a label. While it’s helpful to understand your “why,” it’s crucial to find ways to move forward and feel comfortable in your own skin.
Self-acceptance: the foundation of all growth
Regardless of whether you recognize yourself in one of these descriptions or perhaps in all of them to some extent, the most important message is: self-acceptance is the key to happiness and living in harmony with yourself. We all carry unique gifts and challenges. Instead of trying to fit into predetermined molds, we should question them. What if your difference is what makes this world more beautiful?
The world is not designed for one-size-fits-all life recipes. Your sensitivity, intensity, or unique perspective are not weaknesses – they are gifts. May your journey be marked by self-love and a willingness to explore how differences can become your strength.
Psychotherapy can be a valuable tool on this journey. Through conversation with a therapist, you can explore how to better understand your needs, manage overwhelm, and find a balance between your strengths and weaknesses.
The goal is not to change who you are, but to learn how to live better – as you.
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